We are going to take a break for a second from or regularly scheduled geekery to touch on something important.
We are a community that plays a game, and the kind of community we will be is one of respect, acceptance and enjoyment for everyone. Making this kind of community a reality is something that will always take work, work from us and from all of you, but it is important and it is worth it.
Right now, there is a lot of talk about the challenges and community environment facing our trans/non-binary members, and we wanted to take a moment to address the topic as it applies to DR:Oregon.
While everyone understands that mistakes happen and adjusting our mindsets and expectations instilled by hundreds of years of societal programming is difficult for almost everyone, it is our responsibility to ensure we are doing everything we can to respect the gender identity of all players.
This means that if you accidentally misgender someone, you will be politely corrected. At that point you are expected to make a sincere but brief apology and correct your mistake going forward. Excuses and explanations are neither necessary nor particularly helpful. Similarly, blanket “pre-apologies” do not help alleviate the problem. We know this can be hard, but if you make it as important for yourself to fix as it is for those who can be hurt by the mistake, it is much easier to adjust.
It is never acceptable to misgender someone on purpose under any circumstance, this includes doing so in character. There are many ways to insult each other’s characters without using gender, or any other factor related to real world concerns. We will not tolerate purposeful misgendering. If you ever feel that this has happened to you, or see it happening to someone else, please come to us immediately, so we can act accordingly.
There are likely many other things we can do to make this part of our community feel safer and more welcome, and we will always be happy to consider suggestions. Currently, members of the Trans/Non-Binary community are working on suggestions for providing additional visual cues to help correct mistakes before they occur. Autumn and Jed will be happy to support and join in with them. In general, however, we suggest a simple policy of ask before you assume, and apologize before you excuse.